Anger Management

Prevention of anger: As the proverb goes, “Prevention is better than cure”.  One should refrain from things that lead to anger like pride, arrogance, overestimation of oneself, greediness, self-centeredness, having fun at the wrong place, mockery, etc.

Cure for Anger: After anger takes place, following are the ways by which we can control the anger:

  1. Seeking refuge with Allah from satan as in Chapter 7, Verse 200 [And if an evil whisper come to you from satan, then seek refuge with Allah.  Verily, He is all hearer and All knower.] Sulaiman bin Surd (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that two people were exchanging bad words, and we were seated with the Messenger of Allah.  One was abusing the other in anger, and his face became red.  The Messenger of Allah said, I know a word if he says that word, anger will go away, that is “Aa’oozu billahi minas shaitaan nirrajeem (I seek refuge with Allah from the accursed Satan).

    There are two types of Satan (Shayateen al insi wal jinn).  One that is visible and this is from human beings.  The other one that is not visible and this is from Jinn.  Allah made a way out to get rid of the evils of the human satan by means of forgiveness and repelling the evil with good and a way out to get rid of the evils of jinn satan by means of seeking the refuge with Allah.

  2. Shifting the position while in anger by sitting down, going away, etc.  Abu Dhar (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) said If anyone of you gets angry and he is standing, he should sit down, and if this does not ease his anger, he should lie down (Ahmad).
  3. Performing wudu:  Athiya Assadi (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that Anger is from satan, and satan is created from fire, and water extinguishes fire, so if any of you gets angry, let him perform wudu. (Abu Dawood)
  4. Bringing to mind the virtues and advantages of repressing anger and the disadvantages of exerting it.  Maaz (May Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Messenger of Allah said, “Whoever controls the anger despite having the ability to exert it, Allah will call him on the day of judgment in front of the people and will ask him to select Houris (beautiful females of the paradise) of his choice.” (Abu Dawood).

Anger for the sake of Allah

It should be noted that anger for the sake of Allah is something that is praiseworthy, and it does not come under anger that is blameworthy.  This praiseworthy anger that is for the sake of Allah takes place when one violates the limits of Allah and abandons His commandments and disdains them, and this anger is the representation of the power of his iman (faith), provided this anger be within the boundaries of wisdom.  Messenger of Allah used to get angry when Allah’s limits were transgressed.  He never took revenge for himself.  He never beat his servant or any woman with his hand except when he was in combat in the way of Allah.

Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) served the Messenger of Allah for 10 years, and he speaks about the lofty manners of the Prophet (peace be on him).

“Narrated Anas ibn Malik: I served the Prophet (peace be upon him) at Medina for ten years. I was a boy. Every work that I did was not according to the desire of my master, but he never said to me: Fie, nor did he say to me: Why did you do this? or Why did you not do this?”. (Abu Dawood).

It is important to note that anger solely for the sake of Allah falls within the limits of wisdom and it should not be against wisdom.